5 comments
Being a flight attendant, I had found my passion. I thought I would fly forever, couldn’t think of ever going back to being a business manager again. I was living life and loving it, my friends and family couldn’t understand, and yes it was hard when I had to leave them, but once I was back in the air, I was home, right where I wanted to be. I had tried to have relationships, but it was just too hard with the lifestyle of an FA. Then a big decision came, to continue flying or move back to my home state and be near my brother for the time he had left. This was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make. After much thought, a lot of prayer, I moved home. The end of the story, I have no regrets being with him for the last four years of his life, but honestly, I look up every time a plane flies over my house coming in to land. I miss it every day, it gets easier, but maybe it will never go away. It’s true what I had heard people say, it gets in your blood.
My wife just became a flight attendant.. I’ve been pouring all over the internet reading everything about flight attendants and relationships. I feel so scared. We have literally spent every day together for the past 5 years, and now she is gone up to 6 days a week. I love her so much and I would never do anything to hurt her. Of course I do trust her, even though it might sound like I don’t. I’m scared of flight attendants going out partying every night. I’m scared of forceful pilots being forceful with her. I’m scared of black out drunken mistakes. I’m scared that being gone so much, she will love the travel more than she loves me. I’m scared I will never get to start a family, because how can we take care of children?
I know no one will probably read this, but I guess I had to get it off my chest. Keep up the good blogging, and good luck in your love life.
John Doe-
First- you’re gonna be ok. Stop being so scared. You are so terrified of everything right now…I understand. I understand being afraid of losing everything you love so dearly and everything that you have invested in. I can’t predict what the future will bring, but I can predict that your fears may ruin you. Don’t be scared of the forceful pilots, the black out drunken nights, or the parties. It’s not common. Give your wife a reason she wants to come home. Find something to love. You can raise children. You can live the life you want and you can have the love you want. I heard something today and it was about fear. “Perfect love drives out fear.” Do not be afraid. I don’t know what the future holds for you, but love your wife by letting her be free. She doesn’t love you less by going away. Time will give you the answers you need and for now, just breath. I hope so much that you read this response.
All my love,
Kara
I’m in the same boat as John Doe, although my live-in girlfriend is going to be on a small regional airline (GoJet), so it might not be as bad as 6 days a week… yet. Thank you for your response to John Doe as it’s reassured me somewhat. I’m very protective of her and I know I’ll have trouble with her going into that industry. I’m not controlling, just worried. She’s been in the service industry for years now, so I know what that’s like, but I hear all of the horror stories of pilots calling attendants for late night hookups or even attendants hooking up with other attendants. I trust her more than anyone, but can’t help buy worry about those scenarios. I’ll just do what you said and breathe for now.